Published 18/08/2026 • Updated 18/08/2026 by Joanne Jones

Does He Still Love Me? How to Tell If He Still Has Feelings for You

Written by Joanne Jones, Founder of Trusted Psychics Australia, Psychic Medium, Clairvoyant and Astrologer

Last reviewed: July 2026

How many questions about love can you think of that demand your full attention quite like “Does he still love me?” Statistics from our Trusted Psychics Australia 2026 Customer Survey revealed that 61% of our callers contacted our psychics to see if someone they know still had feelings for them. So, it’s safe to say this question is one of the most common love and relationship concerns we hear.

He may stay in contact and just call when you're least expecting it and expect you to drop everything. He may be gone for weeks at a time without a word, leaving you feeling lost and very alone. You may still feel like he still cares about you despite his excuses, unreliability, and reasons to doubt his actions. Or maybe you’re together, but you don’t feel as close as you once did, and doubts start to fill your thoughts.

The comfort and intimacy that used to be second nature have been replaced by mixed signals or a complete lack of communication.

For over 30 years as a relationship psychic, I’ve spoken to thousands of people who are trying to understand their partner and their relationship or the heartbreak and confusion they may be feeling. Something I’ve learned along the way is that love doesn’t automatically end when a relationship does.

Whether you decided to take a break or called it a day, it’s possible for love to survive pride, fear of rejection, hurt feelings, bad timing and even anger.

Just because he thinks about you during the day or misses you at night, that doesn’t mean he will meet you halfway. He could very well still love you and be unwilling or incapable of providing the honesty, consistency, and emotional stability you deserve.

In this guide, I will show you what to look for that could indicate he still loves you, and what his behaviour may actually mean. And most importantly, when it’s time to stop looking for signs from him and start focusing on you. Try reading one of our other excellent guides: Love Psychic Readings Australia, which is packed with useful information.

Why Do We Look for Signs Someone Still Loves Us?

We search for signs that someone loves us after a breakup or a change in relationship status. Emotions are running high, and we find ourselves over-analysing texts, reading into body language and hoping mixed signals will lead us to the answers we crave.

We cannot always have all the answers you need, as you may find yourself overanalysing what they say or questioning if the little things mean more than they actually do.

This is why you have to look at the bigger picture. You will never find proof that someone really loves you by reading one text or running into them randomly. True feelings are shown through their actions and consistency towards you.

The signs below will help you look past every detail and see the complete picture when trying to figure out if he still loves you.

Does He Still Love Me? Look for These Signs

The most obvious signs usually involve continued emotional interest.

If a man cares about you, he will naturally want to know about your life, remember the things that are important to you, find ways to stay connected and feel some sort of emotion when faced with the thought of losing you forever.

He may also try to fix things instead of simply dwelling on old times when he needs companionship. Keep in mind that just because he demonstrates various signs of love doesn’t mean he’s in love with you.

We reach out to exes for many different reasons. Familiarity, loneliness, guilt, and reassurance are just a few.

Look for several of these signs clustered together and try to determine if they’re consistent over time. Pay attention to his actions, not just his words. Do you feel respected, cared for and emotionally secure with him?

1. He Makes a Real Effort to Stay in Touch

He may text you and ask how you are doing or send you something that reminds him of you. He could start a conversation about nothing in particular just to talk to you. His reasoning may be weak, but the fact that he reaches out at all indicates that he still cares enough to speak to you.

Men who have completely moved on tend to keep communication short, surface-level, or may stop contacting you entirely. Regular contact is a clear sign he has strong feelings for you and still thinks about you.

His consistency is crucial so he is not just reaching out when he’s bored or lonely; he takes the time to talk to you because he wants to.

2. He Remembers Small Things About You

If he remembers things about you that others tend to forget, he may still love you.

He remembers your favourite food, remembers you have an important meeting tomorrow, something was bothering you last week, or you made a goal a few months ago that you wanted to achieve.

He asks about how your day has been and listens attentively. He remembers your anniversary and plans a surprise, and even the date of your best friend's birthday and her favourite perfume.

These small details really count as they are clear signs he has strong feelings for you because he pays attention to you on an emotional level.

3. He Makes a Genuine Effort to Spend Time With You

Spending time with you is one of the biggest signs he has strong feelings for you.

He does things on the spur of the moment and will drop everything to just meet up with you, even if it's just to grab a quick coffee. He never makes any excuses for why he cannot make it or turns up late.

He makes plans that he knows you would enjoy; whether it's a shopping trip or a romantic picnic, he will have planned it out in advance with you as his priority.

4. He Wants to Know How You Really Feel

Someone who really cares about you will genuinely want to know how you're feeling and will not be brushed off with just OK. He will listen to how you feel, offering gentle support and showing he understands and cares on a deeper level.

This type of emotional attention can be one of the strongest indicators that he still loves you. What you’re feeling matters to him because you matter.

5. He Brings up Your Happiest Shared Memories

Whether he mentions your favourite place to dine together or reminds you of a private joke, it’s meaningful if he often brings up happy memories from your relationship.

He will mention past holidays you both enjoyed, a moment when you two connected, or the place where you had your first date. He may recall details you forgot about or tell you he still associates certain songs or locations with you.

Our happiest memories usually come up when we yearn for the connection we felt with someone. If your ex frequently brings up the good times and seems loving when he speaks about them, your ex could still love you.

6. He Is Emotionally Open With You

Sharing our personal emotions is one of the strongest signs of trust and can show there’s still a lot of trust and love left.

He might confide in you about his anxieties, past mistakes, future aspirations, or things he’s going through. He lets you see his sensitive side, which he keeps hidden from most people, and he doesn’t hesitate to let you know when he’s down.

If your ex is emotionally transparent with you, he may still see you as his main source of support and comfort. You are important to him, and what you think means something.

7. He Is Proud of Your Achievements

A man who still loves you will often feel genuinely proud when you succeed.

He supports your goals and will remind you of your strengths when you face difficult situations that need to be overcome.

He encourages your ambitions and remembers the effort behind your achievements. He does not minimise your success or try to compete with you. Genuine love is about mutual respect and is not threatened by growth.

8. He Checks to See If You Are Dating Someone New

He asks outright, brings up the topic casually, or subtly tries to find out if you have been dating someone. He may show jealousy if he thinks you're flirting with someone, even if it's completely innocent.

Just because he’s curious about your love life doesn’t necessarily mean he loves you. Men can feel nostalgic, protective, or just curious about how their exes are doing. But when his inquisition is paired with keeping in contact, actually caring about your life, following through with promises, and maintaining an emotional bond, it can be one of the signs he has strong feelings for you.

Curiosity about your love life isn’t proof of love, but when exhibited alongside other forms of kindness, emotional intimacy, and genuine effort, it can be a sign he has romantic feelings for you.

9. He Does Meaningful Things That Go Above and Beyond

He remembers you asked for a specific item and goes out of his way to get it for you. He sends you a song that reminds him of both of you. He brings you your favourite beverage when he picks you up. He picks out a gift that relates to an inside joke from months ago.

Love is found in these small gestures of daily kindness. He cares enough to want to show you that he was thinking about you. Most importantly, he knows how to make you feel loved. He listens to you. He cares about you. And he wants you to feel heard, appreciated and loved.

10. He Tries to Make You Laugh

When two people fall in love, they often find they can instantly make each other laugh or smile. Sharing laughter helps rebuild emotional intimacy, which is why one of the best signs he wants you back is if he automatically wants to make you laugh.

Positive communication and body language also play a key role here. You’ll smile more around each other. He’ll laugh at your jokes even if they’re not that funny. He will make more eye contact and just seem happier when you’re around.

Scientists and psychologists have known for years that laughter releases hormones which increase emotional bonding. If he still makes you laugh, it can be his subconscious way of trying to reconnect with you the way it used to be.

He will sit or stand closer to you when you’re having a conversation. His body language will mirror yours, and he’ll find reasons to prolong conversations as opposed to letting them end, which is another sign he has strong feelings for you and feels a physical attraction.

11. He Takes Responsibility for Past Mistakes

If he’s willing to own up to his mistakes, that’s a great indication that he still loves you.

He doesn’t make excuses or place blame. Instead, he admits when he was wrong and knows how his actions may have contributed to your hurt. He doesn’t get defensive because he’s had time to reflect on his mistakes and he’s sorry for hurting you.

He also wants to know how you felt after the breakup. He listens intently when you tell him how you felt about the relationship, acknowledges any hurt or confusion you experienced and won’t argue with your feelings or try to alter your memories. This type of empathy is common for someone who knows the relationship meant more to him than he realised.

He will likely ask if there is a chance to reconcile the relationship and to regain your trust. He won’t ask you to forgive him right away but rather knows that trust can only be rebuilt with time and through his consistent actions.

Relationship Insight From Joanne Jones

The mistake I see people make most often after a breakup is giving too much weight to one heart-to-heart conversation, one random text or one good day. Sure, those things can feel promising. But they don't usually define the relationship. You can't restore a healthy relationship with one grand gesture or promise. It's built with consistency, open communication, accountability, and both partners wanting to change for the better.

If you're trying to determine whether or not he loves you, pay attention to the bigger picture instead of one emotional gesture.

Why Men Hide Their Feelings

“How will I know if he still loves me?” is a popular question, but one of the most common ones I receive is, “If he loves me, why won’t he just tell me?” As human beings, our actions do not always match our feelings.

There are plenty of guys out there who have a tough time verbalising their emotions, even when they mean every word. To love someone makes you vulnerable, and by telling you that he loves you or still cares about you, he risks you telling him you don’t feel the same way; he may find out you’ve already moved on or, worse, you could potentially break his heart again.

Heartbreak from past relationships can also contribute to this behaviour. If he’s been burned by breakups in the past, he may have built up walls to shield his heart from you. He might love you and want to reach out, but his fear takes over because it feels stronger than love.

This is also why actions speak louder than words. If a man truly loves you, he will make time for you. He will listen to you. He wants you to be happy, and you will see the signs that he has strong feelings for you.

Eventually, you will need to discuss how you both feel, as a relationship can’t survive without honesty, trust, and communication. Look at his actions throughout the entire timeline of your relationship rather than one text or conversation.

Does He Miss You or Is He Just Lonely?

Loneliness and missing someone you used to love aren’t necessarily the same thing. In fact, it’s one of the most difficult questions to figure out after a relationship comes to an end.

You will miss him. It’s natural to miss your ex if you shared your life with them. You didn’t just lose a boyfriend or girlfriend; you lost your routine, memories, and someone who knew you better than anybody. When you’re feeling lonely, moments that you spent together are amplified when you’re alone, going through a tough time, or have just ended another relationship.

Lonely people call when they need something. They want to talk to you when they need comforting. They go silent as soon as that need fades away. They want to talk about the past with you but are not focused on gaining your trust or creating a future. It feels good while it’s happening, but there is no effort to go further.

People can become emotionally dependent on others for many reasons. He may need you because you make him feel safe, validated, loved, or not so lonely. But just because he needs you doesn’t mean that he loves you in a way that allows you both to thrive in a healthy relationship. Love is not about having someone there so you don’t feel lonely.

So, if you find yourself asking “Does he miss me or is he just lonely?” don’t judge him by how much or how little he reaches out to you. Ask yourself if what he’s doing is helping the two of you progress as a couple or if he’s just calling you when he needs a comforting voice. The reality of his actions will tell you more than his words ever will.

Can Someone Still Love You but Not Want a Relationship?

Yes, someone can still love you but not want a relationship. It’s one of the cruel ironies about love because sometimes feelings aren’t enough to sustain a relationship. You deserve someone who wants to build a future with you.

I’ve talked to hundreds of people over the years who told me they loved their ex but knew it was time to end the relationship. Maybe they’re going through a lot of changes and aren’t ready to deal with a partner. Perhaps they live too far away and struggle to maintain the relationship. Or maybe they’ve allowed emotional baggage to prevent them from opening up and trusting someone again.

While they may love you, they know they can’t give you what you need to maintain a healthy relationship for the future. Relationships take work and require honesty, communication, dedication, and trust. If your partner can’t provide that, then it doesn’t matter how much they say they love you.

Signs He Still Loves You but Is Afraid

There can be times when a guy loves you but is afraid to tell you. He might fear rejection, another failed relationship or repeating past mistakes. This leads to him avoiding the real issues or bottling up his feelings instead of telling you how he feels.

He may convince himself it’s better to just stay friends or remain strangers.

Fear can cause someone to push you away, then return weeks or even months later. He might check up on you through friends or social media, but he refuses to reach out to you personally. Every time you two talk, he may seem nice and loving, but he falls short of expressing his true feelings for you.

Fear can cause someone to send you mixed signals. However, that doesn’t mean fear should be an acceptable, permanent answer. Somewhere down the line, if a relationship is going to work, both partners need to be open and vulnerable with one another. If he wants you in his life, he will overcome his fears and tell you how he feels.

Why Relationships Change

When it comes to love, most relationships change slowly over time. Things we used to do without thinking start to disappear until suddenly you and your partner are just following a daily routine but not feeling connected.

Small talk replaces deep conversations. Misunderstandings are forgotten instead of talked through, and sharing your innermost thoughts and feelings with your partner is no longer a priority. You’re together, but your relationship may no longer be thriving.

The daily stresses of life can take a toll on us and our partners. Long hours at work, financial stress, kids, ageing parents, and life’s unexpected curveballs can wear you down. When you’re constantly focused on getting through the day, you tend to give less attention to spending quality time together, showing affection and maintaining that emotional connection.

Another reason relationships change is that we get comfortable and slowly take our partner for granted. The little things you used to do for each other, say to each other, and spend time together may fade into the background of your daily routine. It’s not that your love is gone; you just stopped working on it.

Trust is another factor that impacts every relationship. Whether trust was broken or you simply stopped having the tough conversations, lacking honesty will only drive you and your partner further apart. Without good communication and a commitment from both partners to work through their problems, distance happens.

Does No Contact Mean He Doesn't Love You?

The easiest assumption to make is that no contact is a sign he doesn’t care about you anymore. But sometimes people use the no-contact rule after a breakup because they need space to recover, sort through their feelings or gain some clarity. Maybe they needed space because they wanted to respect your boundaries or not say something they would regret.

There are times when no contact definitely means he isn’t over you, but it can also just mean he needs some space to heal and sort things out. If he’s trying to move on, then yes, no contact probably means he doesn’t love you.

But you can’t use a single instance of no contact to determine whether he loves you or has moved on from the relationship. Look at his actions throughout the relationship as a whole.

Learn what no contact really means after a breakup by reading our full Love Psychic Readings Australia to learn more about the No Contact Rule. We cover when no contact can save a relationship, when it means he’s emotionally moved on, and when it’s time to move on yourself.

What 30 Years of Relationship Readings Have Taught Me

I’ve talked to hundreds, if not thousands, of clients over the past 30-plus years providing psychic love advice. Something that has become abundantly clear to me is this: When people contact me, it’s rarely because they don’t know how he feels. They call me because his actions do not line up with the love they once knew was there.

One thing I’ve learned is that real love speaks quietly. Love doesn’t have to make grand gestures or write heartfelt messages after being gone for weeks. You know real love by the actions of consistency, honesty, respect, and how emotionally safe they make you feel.

Another thing I’ve learned is that love doesn’t always solve everything. He could still love you and have problems with trusting again, communication, emotional maturity or external stressors like money or children from a previous relationship. He may love you like he used to, but is he really trying to prove it? Did he step up and own up to his mistakes? Are his actions matching up to his words?

Many clients know before they even schedule a session that something is different. They see it in the lack of communication, the emotional unavailability or the sweet gestures that used to be there. A lot of times, they just need confirmation of what is happening in their relationship.

When Should You Stop Looking for Signs?

Facing the hard fact, you should not wait any longer. If it’s been weeks or months and you find yourself over-analysing every text message, Instagram post, and accidental run-in, then you’re probably trying to find some sort of answer that may not actually be there.

You should feel more certain with every day that passes when it comes to love, not feel like you’re living a constant waiting game.

He may never call or text you again. I know it’s tough to face reality when you want someone who doesn’t want to be with you right now. But if he continues to give mixed signals, chase you, avoid commitment, or just isn’t trying to work things out with you, then it’s going to start tearing you down and making you question yourself.

You have to believe that you deserve better than someone who can only be inconsistent when they want to. Letting him go does not mean what you two had wasn’t valid or that your feelings for him don’t matter. You deserve all the love and happiness in the world, so you should care about your mental peace just as much as you cared about him.

You need to start focusing on yourself and your personal interests. You deserve to be with someone who will cherish you, and the healthiest relationship you can be in will never make you question yourself.

Could a Love Psychic Help You Understand His Feelings?

When you’re invested emotionally, it can be hard to know what’s intuition and what’s hope/fear talking. You can’t always be objective about your relationships because you care too much. But a love psychic reading can provide some outside insight when your emotions are clouding your judgement.

Questions about relationships are the most common reason people reach out to Trusted Psychics Australia. According to our 2026 client survey, 92% of our customers called for love and relationship advice.

Through more than three decades of experience helping people through breakups, reconciling, the beginnings of new relationships and long-term connection struggles, we know that many situations tend to unfold in similar emotional ways.

Our love psychics have years of experience, and they will never guarantee that your ex is coming back or tell you what you want to hear. A psychic reading can help you identify relationship patterns, gain clarity on your situation, and feel more confident in your next decision.

At Trusted Psychics Australia, we’ve been connecting customers with experienced love psychics since 1992. Our relationship experts provide insights on relationships, breakups, will my ex come back, soulmates, new relationships and more with empathy, honesty and respect every day.

If you find yourself wondering “Does he still love me?” let a love psychic help you see your relationship more clearly, from a different perspective and decide what’s truly best for you.

Speak to one of our experienced Love Psychics today and take the first step towards greater clarity and peace of mind.

Frequently Asked Questions

Have a question about your relationship? You’re not alone. Here are the answers to some of the most commonly asked questions our readers have.

How Do You Know If He Still Loves You?

A man who loves you will usually make time for you, stay interested in your life and follow through on his promises. He will treat you with kindness, respect, and emotional consideration. Look at his behaviour over time instead of expecting one big heartfelt conversation.

Can a Man Still Love You After Breaking Up?

Yes, of course he can. People often still have feelings for their ex even after a breakup. Sometimes a person will still love their partner but know that trust must be earned again, that the timing isn’t quite right, or that other life changes need to occur before the two of you can try again.

How Can You Tell If Your Ex-Partner Still Cares About You?

If your ex consistently tries to reach out, remembers important details about you and your life, asks about your well-being, and makes an effort to stay in your life, they may still care about you. If they also talk about what they did wrong and your future together, they likely still have feelings.

Does He Miss Me, or Does He Just Miss Me Feeling Loved?

Missing someone and just wanting to feel loved aren’t the same thing. When someone only misses your company, they may reach out every once in a while but won’t make any effort to take things further. True feelings are built upon regular contact and healthy communication.

Why Would He Hide His Feelings If He Loves Me?

Some people have a hard time openly expressing their emotions. They may feel vulnerable about telling you they love you or worried about how you’ll react. If he loves you, he will show you through his actions. However, hiding feelings does not make for a healthy relationship in the long term.

If He Still Loves Me, Does He Deserve a Second Chance?

If he still loves you but cheated, ghosted, lied, or broke your trust in another way, he may not deserve your immediate forgiveness. However, everyone deserves a second chance if they show genuine remorse for their actions, make amends and can prove they have changed moving forward.

How Do You Know If He Regrets Losing You?

If he initiates contact often, admits when he’s wrong, and tries to fix what he did wrong instead of making the same mistakes over and over, he may regret losing you.

The best way to know for sure is to simply ask. As long as enough time has passed and your relationship ended respectfully, asking clear questions will stop any confusion. Just know the answer before you ask. Ask when you can handle any response, not just the one you want to hear.

Will a Love Psychic Know If He Still Loves Me?

A good love psychic will help you see what you might be doing to push your love away, provide you with any information you need and allow you to come to your own conclusion. You will know the answer once you’ve heard it. We’re here to help guide you in the right direction.

When Is It Too Long to Wait for Him to Come Back to Me?

Typically, if it’s been a few months with no real effort from his direction to contact you and consistently regain your trust, you should stop waiting for him. Relationships require two people who want the same thing. You can’t force someone to want to love you.

The Most Important Thing to Remember

Through over 30 years of experience in helping others with their love and relationships, one thing I’ve learnt is that eventually the question changes. It starts as ‘Does he love me?’, but over time, the healthier question you need to ask yourself is ‘Is this relationship providing me with the love, respect and consistency that I deserve?’

That one little shift in thought can change everything.

It’s hard when you’re in the thick of it, and your emotions are tangled up. You analyse every text, replay every conversation, and try to find secret meanings behind mixed signals. I know how mentally and emotionally draining this can be. The people in healthy relationships don’t have to question where they stand every second of the day because if they love each other, they show each other, through trust, honesty, consistency and by putting in the effort.

If he wants you in his life, he’ll show you. You shouldn’t have to compromise or wait for someone to make up their mind. Finding new love can be exciting, so enjoy the flirting and initial attraction; you shouldn't have to play the waiting game; you deserve better.

Whether things work out between the two of you or you grow apart and decide to move on, don’t forget about number one: You. The best relationships I’ve seen throughout the years haven’t been about trying to persuade someone to stay. It’s about two people who choose each other. Day after day. Through honesty, respect, and kindness.

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