Published 16/03/2026 • Updated 09/09/2026 by Joanne Jones

Will Your Ex Come Back? These Signs Might Surprise You

Written by: Founder of Trusted Psychics Australia | Relationship Psychic | Clairvoyant | Psychic Medium

Pretty much anyone who experiences heartbreak will ask themselves the same question. Not because they want to turn back time. But because not knowing is one of the worst feelings you can have. Often, it’s better to hear no rather than wonder for months if your ex still thinks about you. Which is why “Will my ex come back?” is one of Australia's most Googled relationship questions each year.

Will My Ex Come Back?

While nobody can predict another human being’s decisions, there are ways of knowing if your ex is moving on. Relationships involve emotional bonds, attachment issues, communication skills, and a whole long list of personal choices. Yet, there are common indicators that an ex may still care about you, regret the break-up or keep options open for getting back together.

In this guide, you’ll discover signs your ex could come back, signs they’ve moved on after the break-up, why the recovery process after a break-up is so painful and how love psychic readings can help you decide whether getting back together is the right choice for you.

Why Is “Will My Ex Come Back?” Such an Important Question?

Contrary to popular belief, people don't always contact a psychic out of desperation because they hope their ex wants to get back together.

When a relationship ends, initiated by one partner, the need to understand the reasons can be overwhelming, especially if the ex-partner has made no contact and you are left with so many unanswered questions.

Based on Trusted Psychics Australia's 2026 Customer Survey, 92% of callers to our services contact us about love and relationships, making relationship guidance the most requested type of psychic reading.

Over 30 years, our experienced love psychics have worked through every type of relationship issue with readings concerning an ex-partner, often causing the most distress and tending to be the most painful. Understandably, many of our callers aren’t just reading to find out if their ex is going to come back. They have deeper emotional questions like why things ended, why their ex’s behaviour changed overnight, or why they are left with so many unanswered questions.

Without a clear understanding of what happened, people are left with confusion, which can prolong the healing process. One of the main reasons moving on becomes so difficult is when you are questioning every last conversation and doubting the emotional closeness you once shared.

Can You Really Know Whether Your Ex Will Come Back?

Nobody can guarantee that your ex will come back to you.

An experienced psychic reader should never predict away another person’s free will or show you the future as set in stone. People's feelings change; difficult situations can change a person's emotions; communication often breaks down; jealousy appears; or trust issues surface, whether they are true or unfounded, can cause deep distrust and upset.

What we can look at are some key emotions surrounding your relationship. Patterns that may have contributed to the breakup. And signs an ex will exhibit that may possibly lead to a reconciliation.

If you are seeing signs of a reunion, these should be more than just words, although communication skills are the first place to start, so you can both understand why you split up in the first place and how it will be different the second time around.

31 Signs Your Ex May Come Back

Before searching for signs your ex might still love you, ask yourself this: Do you want them back? Although it's tempting to cling to any bit of hope after a break-up, not all relationships are meant to be salvaged. If you feel that you two can rebuild your relationship healthier and stronger than before, here are some actions that may indicate your ex is regretting the break-up and wants to get back together.

• 1. Your Ex Keeps in Contact

Repeated attempts to text, call, see how you’re doing, or reach out when they don’t need anything may be signs of love, and they don’t want to lose you.

• 2. They Find Excuses to Speak With You

Asking about something they can look up or find for themselves, sending you a meme, or commenting on an old TV show to create an ‘innocent’ reason to start a conversation are other signs your ex is waiting for you.

• 3. They Ask About You Frequently

Your ex might text your friends to casually ask how you are doing, which could be simple curiosity but could also be jealousy if they think you may have moved on.

• 4. Your Ex Brings up Old Memories

Reminiscing about past vacations, romantic places you had visited, inside jokes, old photos, or special moments could be a sign they’ve been thinking about you and the relationship.

• 5. They Tell You That They Miss You

If your ex says they miss you, it’s a pretty obvious sign that they regret the break-up, but the break-up happened for a reason, so their honesty depends on how you move forward.

• 6. Your Ex Wants to Talk About the Break-up

If your ex wants to meet up or talk about what happened, it may be that the time apart has caused regret over splitting up, and they realise what they have lost and may want a reconciliation.

• 7. They Sincerely Apologise for Their Actions

This means they have thought about how they treated you and are taking responsibility for their actions. This is normally a sign that your ex cares about your emotional well-being and is hoping for a second chance.

• 8. Your Ex Says They’ve Changed

They may tell you that they have addressed their lack of communication skills, emotional unavailability, trust issues, or addictions. They are trying to make you understand that they realise they made mistakes, and the only way you would consider reconciliation is if they can prove they have changed.

• 9. They Ask About Your Life

Your ex still cares about you if they want to know how things are in your life. They may ask about your job, family members, hobbies, goals, etc which shows they want to be part of your life again.

• 10. Your Ex Gets Jealous

When you bring someone new up in conversation or mention dating again, your ex may react with jealousy. Jealousy often means your ex still has real feelings for you and cannot bear thinking about you dating someone else.

• 11. Your Ex Continues to Watch Your Social Media

They are watching your social media activity, commenting on your posts, or liking old pictures, which can mean they are keeping tabs on you. It can also mean they miss being part of your life.

• 12. They Haven’t Deleted Pics of You

If your ex still has photos of the two of you together on their phone or social media, it could mean they are not over you, and they still value being together and regret the breakup.

• 13. They Won’t Give Your Stuff Back

They make excuses to return personal items. Holding onto something that belongs to you is often a way to still feel connected.

• 14. They Attempt to See You

Your ex keeps asking to meet for coffee, lets you know where they will be with your mutual friends, or just turns up unexpectedly. Seeing you again would bring hope that there is a chance for a reunion.

• 15. Your Ex Still Contacts Your Friends/Family

Your ex wants to stay connected to you if they continue to talk to your friends or family.

• 16. Your Ex Starts Comparing Other People to You

Your ex tells your friends they are not interested in dating anyone else and that they just want another chance to make things right between you.

• 17. You Slowly Start Talking More

If an ex wants you back, they typically won’t leave it to late-night texts. They will call, text, and spend time with you consistently.

• 18. Your Ex Asks If You Would Give Them Another Chance

Sometimes an ex will ask you questions like ‘Do you believe in second chances?’ or ‘What would I have to do to earn your forgiveness?’ to see how you will respond before revealing their feelings.

• 19. The Reason You Two Broke up Is No Longer an Issue

Things may become easier to reconcile if you two broke up because of distance, busy schedules, family obligations, or timing. If those factors are no longer present, it could open the door for your ex to want to try things again.

• 20. Your Ex Tries to Repair Trust

They don’t just say they love you or miss you. They show it by taking responsibility for their actions, respecting your boundaries, and doing what it takes to earn your trust back.

• 21. Your Ex Starts Working on Themselves After the Break-up

They suddenly put more effort into their appearance, fitness, and DIY jobs. When an ex suddenly starts to focus on self-improvement, it can be a sign they want another chance with you.

• 22. They Remember Your Birthday/Anniversary/Life Events

If your ex texts you happy birthday, remembers the anniversary of your relationship, or checks in after significant life events, it means they are thinking of you. Sometimes your ex will reach out to you on special days as a way of opening communication again without having to discuss your relationship.

• 23. They Reply Quickly Whenever You Reach Out to Them

Whenever you send a text, they reply almost instantly. While it’s not a guarantee, someone who replies to your messages quickly, keeps conversations going, and seems happy when you text them might still care about you.

• 24. They Start Talking About the Future

They gradually start talking about you in their plans for the future. They firmly believe you have a future together, and you’re splitting up was just an event in the past. They could be waiting to see if you feel the same way and are committed to a long-term relationship.

• 25. Your Ex Stops Trying to Pin All the Blame on You

Were you and your ex blaming each other right after the break-up? As time goes on, if your ex realises that you both had flaws that led to the split, it could create a more open space for communication.

• 26. Your Ex Starts Trusting You Again

Trust is built through action, not words. If your ex can prove they are trustworthy by being there when they say they will and respecting your boundaries, they may be trying to mend things between you two.

• 27. Your Ex Opens up About Their Emotions

“How do I know if my ex regrets breaking up with me?” They open up about their emotions. If your ex was bad about communicating how they felt in the past but has suddenly become more transparent about their emotions after splitting up, it may be a sign.

• 28. They Offer to Go to Couples Therapy

You can be sure that when your ex offers to go to any type of therapy, it's a sign that they are committed to getting back together and will do whatever it takes to show you how much they want it to work out.

• 29. Your Ex Gives You Space Instead of Smothering You With Attention

They agree to your set boundaries if you are going to get back together on the understanding that their behaviour needs to be consistent and not just empty promises.

• 30. You Can Sense a Change in Their Behaviour

Trust your own intuition; they are no longer as needy, childish, or distant as they were when you two were fighting right before the break-up. Everything they do just feels different, and you can’t explain why. Trust your gut, friends. You’re usually right.

• 31. They Admit Breaking up Was a Big Mistake

They finally admit that the break-up was a big mistake, and they don't want to be without you. They now realise the importance of being totally honest if they really want you back and want to have the chance to prove they have changed for the better by putting your needs first before their own.

If several of these signs show up repeatedly, your ex may still love you, regret breaking up, or want to give things another chance.

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15 Signs You Should Face Your Ex-May Not Ever Be Coming Back

Even if you know your ex isn’t coming back, it can still be hard to accept that they’re not going to be part of your future. You might still hope that someday they’ll realise what they’re missing and want to give things another try.

What if the relationship is really over and there’s no way back? Clinging to hope when your ex isn’t coming back will prevent you from healing and growing from the experience. It can be scary to face reality when you still have feelings for your ex, but sometimes it’s the only way to move on.

Here are 15 signs that your ex may not be coming back and when it might be time to let go.

• 1. Your Ex Has Said They Don’t Want to Be With You Anymore

If your ex has broken up with you and told you they don’t want to be with you anymore, then chances are they meant it. Of course you can still hope they change their mind, but you shouldn’t try to guilt, manipulate, or pressure them into staying if they’re sure about leaving.

Manipulation will never get you your ex back, but it will harm your chances of them returning, even if they still love you.

• 2. Your Ex Has Ghosted You

One sure-fire sign that your ex isn’t coming back is when they are ghosting you. If you’ve tried reaching out to them, left messages, and they still don’t respond or return your calls, then they probably aren’t coming back.

The exception to this is if your ex suddenly gets in contact out of nowhere. This could be a sign that they have either changed their mind or want to talk.

• 3. Your Ex Is Happy With Someone New

If your ex has found someone new that they are sharing their life with and seem happy, then you should let them go. Just because you broke up doesn’t mean your ex is owed your time and energy unless they want it too.

Move on and wish them happiness because if they aren’t with you, then someone else will be.

• 4. They Won’t Respond to Your Messages

Do your messages go unanswered, or do they get a “k” or “lol” in reply? If your ex refuses to communicate with you, then they are most likely trying to create space between you two. Stop contacting them if they’re not contacting you.

• 5. They Have Asked You to Leave Them Alone

Did your ex explicitly ask you to stop contacting them or tell you they needed space? If so, then leaving them alone is exactly what you should do. Contacting your ex after they’ve asked you to leave them alone will only push them further away.

• 6. They Deleted You

If your photos have been deleted, you’ve been unfollowed on social media, they’ve thrown away your stuff and ended contact with your friends, then they probably aren’t coming back. When your ex starts removing you from their life, it means they’re making a clean break.

• 7. They Show No Interest in Your Life

If your ex no longer asks how your day was, what you’re up to or if you’ve reached your goals, then they probably have moved on with their life. When we care about someone, we want to know what is going on in their life.

• 8. The Reasons Why You Ended Are Still Present

Did you break up due to trust issues? Too much arguing? Incompatibility? If those problems still exist, then your ex will probably run into them again if you get back together. Just because you two miss each other doesn’t mean your relationship problems will go away.

• 9. You’re the Only One Trying to Reach Them

A relationship takes two people to work. If you’re the only one trying to contact your ex and stay connected, maybe you should reevaluate whether your ex is worth holding on to. Are you holding on to a ghost of your ex, or are they actually still there?

• 10. Your Ex Has Moved On

Your ex may have moved on if they refuse to talk about your relationship, avoid certain topics and seem happy with where their life is headed.

It’s not personal if your ex has moved on; everyone moves on from a relationship at some point.

• 11. Your Ex Only Contacts You When They Need Something

Do you only ever hear from your ex when they need your help? Whether it be emotionally supporting them, a place to stay or just someone to hang out with. If your ex only contacts you when they need something, then they are probably just using you.

• 12. Your Ex Is Making Plans Without You

Has your ex moved on to someone new, made plans for the future that don’t include you or made a life decision that you’re not part of? If your ex is making a life for themselves that doesn’t involve you, then chances are they aren’t coming back.

• 13. You Have Lost Hope, but Cling to False Hope Instead

Have you accepted that your ex probably isn’t coming back, but you still hope they say something to change your mind? If you’re stuck clinging to what could’ve been rather than dealing with the real situation, then it might be time to face reality.

• 14. You’re Putting Your Life on Hold Until They Come Back

If you find that you’re turning down dating opportunities, cutting off friendships, and not making time for yourself because you’re waiting for your ex to come back, then you might want to rethink your priorities. No relationship is worth putting your life on hold for.

• 15. You Know They Aren’t Coming Back; You’re Just Waiting for Answers

Instead of wishing for your ex to come back, accept that they’re gone and move forward with your life.

The Psychology of Break-up Regret

When most people think about break-ups, they imagine one partner suddenly deciding that moving on is the best option. However, at the time, they may have felt the relationship had come to an end, but one thing we constantly hear about is regret and the sudden realisation that they have ended the relationship.

Your partner may regret breaking up with you, not because they were wrong to leave but because they realise what they had when it’s gone. Life with someone can get comfortable; you have a routine, you make future plans together and often support each other when there are difficult situations, so why break up?

Ex-couples often take their partner for granted, and often it's not until the relationship has ended that they see what they meant to their life on a daily basis. The future you’d built together vanishes overnight when a relationship ends. Not only do you lose your partner, but you also lose the potential future that you both worked toward.

That’s why we frequently get questions like “Will my ex regret leaving me?” “Does my ex miss me?” and “Will I Ever Find Love?” When a relationship ends, there is often a mix of emotions from relief, anger, freedom, heartbreak, and regret. As time passes, those initial feelings fade, and your ex may start to remember things about your relationship differently.

Memories of fighting, arguing, and frustration fade while moments that brought your ex happiness, security, and comfort remain. Shared experiences might become more important than whatever happened at the end. When people realise they made a mistake, they can be filled with genuine regret.

We’ve talked to thousands of people over the past 30 years. One common denominator that we hear from people on both sides of a break-up is that they just want to know if their relationship meant as much to their ex as it did to them. More often than not, people just want validation that the relationship was important, they weren’t replaceable, and their love was enough.

Understanding that regret does not equal reconciliation is also crucial. Just because your ex may regret ending the relationship doesn’t mean they want reconciliation. Similarly, your ex may realise that they want your relationship to work but will not reach out due to a fear of being rejected and the way they behaved before.

If your ex-partner experiences genuine regret, they may try to rekindle the relationship by making changes and through honest communication. You deserve a partner who puts you first and does not take you for granted, so even if they ask for forgiveness, this may not be sufficient to look towards a reconciliation.

Studies on relationships have found that humans tend to struggle with uncertainty more than they struggle with actual rejection. When you have unanswered questions, your brain wants to figure out what happened. It replays memories and fantasies about what could've happened. Which is why most people have a hard time moving on, and why many seek psychic love advice.

Why Some Exes Return Years After Breaking Up

One question many people often ask themselves after going through a breakup is: “Can my ex come back years later?” Yes. Whether you want them to or not, ex-couples can reunite after years of being separated, as often the attraction is still there. But why would they?

Your ex could be reaching out because they know they made a mistake by letting you go. Maybe they reacted too soon and said things they didn’t mean. Perhaps they tried to rush into a relationship with someone new without taking the time to really let themselves feel anything. After a break-up, we grow and gain experience that allows us to look back on relationships with a new perspective.

We’ve had thousands of people reach out to us over the past 30 years who had their ex-partner come back to them months or even years after a break-up. The ones that stayed together were able to work because both parties not only grew emotionally, but they also communicated better than they had in the past. They were willing to work on their flaws and commit to building something healthier than it was before.

Should You Take Your Ex Back?

Don’t let your heart and nostalgia decide that getting back together is the right thing to do for you.

Ask yourself this instead: “Will we have a healthier relationship if we get back together than we did before?”

Simply thinking Does he still love me isn’t enough. The issues that ended the relationship must be resolved, and genuine effort must be demonstrated through action, not words. When couples jump back into a relationship just because of loneliness, they usually end up sliding back into old habits.

We’ve seen relationships destroyed by cheating, arguments, distance, and life changes. We’ve learned that the relationships with the best chance for success after reconciliation are the ones where both partners took responsibility for their part in what went wrong. Trust was rebuilt, and communication improved beyond where it was before the break-up.

Questions to Ask Yourself Before Reconciliation

It can be really easy to become blinded by hope when your ex suddenly reappears in your life. Take some time to think realistically about what you actually want before you make any decisions. Ask yourself these questions…

What were the real reasons your relationship ended, or were there other issues that remain unresolved? Have both of you changed, or are you just lonely and missing each other?

Do you believe that trust can be rebuilt and that you are able to truly forgive?

Why do you want another chance? Is it because you truly think you can build something healthier, or are you feeling lonely, scared of being single, or just longing for what’s comfortable?

Most importantly, would you want to begin a relationship with your ex if you met them today? Would you choose them after everything that has happened?

Sometimes the answers will assure you that it’s worth fighting for. Other times, it allows you to walk away knowing that it’s over.

What 30 Years of Relationship Readings Have Taught Trusted Psychics Australia

Working with thousands of broken-hearted people for over 30 years has taught the psychic readers at Trusted Psychics Australia that every relationship is unique. However, the questions people ask are often very similar. "Will my ex come back? "Does my ex still love me?" or "Should I give my ex another chance?" are all questions that point to one common goal: finding out what the future holds rather than looking for certainty.

We have learned that the relationships that work the best going forward aren't restored just because two people happened to miss being together. Successful relationships are built on the premise that each person takes responsibility, learns from the past and trusts each other again through action, not words.

We have also learned that many people who call us eventually realise they want answers to more than just how to get their ex back. They also want to know why the relationship ended, whether it really mattered, and how they can have peace of mind moving forward, regardless of whether their ex decides to return.

What we think is the most important lesson of all is this: if you want a relationship that lasts, build it on honesty, respect, and effort from both partners. Whether your future is with your ex or a new partner, those are things that will always be more important than simply saying the right things.

Frequently Asked Questions About Whether an Ex Will Come Back

Do Exes Always Come Back?

No. Some ex-partners will come back, and other relationships have ended permanently. Whether an ex wants to come back depends on factors like why the relationship ended and whether both partners are willing and ready to work on past issues. Waiting and hoping for your ex to return can stop your recovery process and stop you from living your life to its full potential.

Will My Ex Come Back After Saying It’s Over for Good?

If your ex says it's over for good, you should accept it unless there is a genuine reason they ended the relationship and the circumstances have changed. You may feel great sadness, but never put your life on hold for a reconciliation that may never happen.

Can My Ex Miss Me but Not Want to Get Back Together?

Yes. Someone can miss your relationship, the comfort of being with you and being romantic without wanting to return to a relationship with you. Missing someone is normal. Wanting to get back with that person and actually having a healthy relationship are two different things. You can deeply love someone, but being together just does not work.

Will My Ex Come Back to Me After They've Moved On?

They might, but you shouldn’t wish for their new relationship to fail just in case they do reach out. There is a chance they may realise what they have now isn’t what they want, but their coming back doesn’t guarantee they’ve changed or can make it work now.

What Does It Mean When My Ex-Contacts Me on My Birthday?

It might mean they still think about you and care, or it might just be because they're being nice. Birthdays don't mean your ex is suddenly coming back to you. Wait and see if they follow through after the day is over. Simple contact isn't a sign of reconciliation.

Why Did My Ex Come Back Then Leave Me Again?

They may have realised they missed being with you but not realised how much work they need to do to make it healthy. After the excitement wears off, they may find the same problems are still there. That’s why some break-ups that "shouldn't" happen continue to happen and do not bring the happiness that was hoped for.

Can You Have a Successful Relationship With Your Ex?

Yes. Couples can have stronger relationships when they give each other a second chance. But they have to go into it with more awareness of what went wrong in the past. They also both need to know how they contributed to the breakup and be willing to have honest communication to heal past hurt.

Can a Psychic Help Find Out If My Ex Will Come Back?

An experienced psychic should never guarantee your ex will return. Relationship readings can offer valuable insights but cannot definitively say whether they will come back.

How Do I Know My Ex Wants to Get Back Together?

Look at their actions moving forward. If they suddenly start being vague and giving mixed signals, they probably don't want you back. An ex who is serious about getting back together will typically be clear with their words and their actions.

How Do I Know When My Ex Is Serious About Getting Back Together?

Look at their behavioural indicators. If they consistently reach out, talk about the problems that led to the break-up, take responsibility for their actions, and give you space when needed, they might be serious about giving things another chance. On the other hand, if they want you back as their partner but aren't willing to do the work to make that a reality, they aren't being serious.

Should I Wait for My Ex or Move On?

Moving on means you won't put your life on hold waiting for them to decide what they want. Move on with your life and allow yourself to be happy, focusing on your own emotional well-being, even if they decide not to come back. You'll be in a much better place if they do come back, too.

Why Trust Trusted Psychics Australia?

For more than three decades, Trusted Psychics Australia has connected customers with experienced psychic readers who specialise in relationships, ex-partner readings, reconciliation guidance, soulmate connections, and emotional clarity.

From phone psychics to online chat and messenger readings, we make it easy for you to speak to one of our experienced psychic readers anytime and anywhere across Australia. All conversations are held in strict confidentiality, so you will feel comfortable discussing whatever is on your mind.

Relationships are one of the most common topics for a psychic reading. Whether you want answers about a recent break-up, want to know if your ex is open to giving your relationship another chance or just need some assurance to start moving on, our caring psychics will help guide you with honesty, empathy, and respect.

Still Looking for Answers? Ask One of Our Experienced Online Psychics

If you're still unsure whether your ex will come back or think you might want to know more about what your ex is thinking and feeling right now, ask one of our psychic readers for help.

Our psychic readers have helped tens of thousands of Australians find the love and happiness they deserve. Read our latest article about: The Complete Guide to Choosing the Best Love Psychic.

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About Joanne Jones

Joanne Jones is the founder of Trusted Psychics Australia. With over 30 years of experience offering psychic insight and advice on love, relationships, soulmates, family, and life paths, Joanne has guided thousands through their most emotional moments as they seek clarity.

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